3 Reasons Why You Should Stop Prospecting Your Family and Friends.

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Going back as far as high school, I lusted after the idea of being an entrepreneur. The problem was I had no clue how that would work out, or what I would do. After the military, I worked a ton of odd jobs, and even the assembly line for a few years. I joke about having a long resume of too many work stints, but it’s the truth.

After a period of time I knew that working a 9-to-5 just wasn’t for me. As a result, I started my entrepreneurial journey.

I remember being laid off at the last job I had, and setting up a plan to succeed in the old family home on the first Saturday I had off in months. That was the beginning of what has been a very rewarding and challenging voyage for me. I always knew the decisions I made were the right ones, but something else, while not always super obvious, has been evident.

I’m cut out for this because of the traits I possess.

I enjoy sales. I don’t mind a somewhat unstable income (at least when getting started). I like solving problems, and dealing with people. I have a deep appreciation for my personal freedom that comes from being able to determine my own schedule, and projects. I’m willing to live with less, and forgo some of the American ideals my peers are experiencing (having kids, buying cars and houses, etc) to make things work for me.

I have made these decisions due to what makes sense to me as a person.

I’m often asked how I got started, or what I did to get where I am, but once I begin to explain, and what’s involved, some people are just turned off.

In the past, I tried to talk my friends into starting a business, but I soon learned it was mostly a waste of breath. Not because my advice wasn’t good, but simply because they just don’t have the mindset for this.

There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, it’s perfectly normal.

I have to admit many entrepreneurs are crazy and many think that their way is the best way.

In reality, there are many paths to your destination, but when you get from point A to point B in a manner that makes sense to only you, it seems like it’s the only way.

As a result, you might find yourself preaching to them all about how they should do it too, even if they have no interest in it at all.

And that’s the reason for this article — to all you go-getters out there who tell people to become an entrepreneur, you might ought to stick a sock in it.

Note¹: I said “tell people to.”

1. Entrepreneurship Requires A Certain Personality Type

Even though network marketing is a business for people who like to help people, it is not for everyone. The up’s and down’s that come with this lifestyle are reserved for those who can handle it.

One month you could be having a blast making money while the next there is nothing. If that phases you, I advise you to rethink your decision to work for yourself.

This life is about being a self-starter. That’s not a great title, but it’s the truth.

I remember being asked the same question in all my job interviews –

“Would you consider yourself a self-starter?”

Every time I heard that I wanted to rip my hair out and say “What do you think? I’m sitting here in a cheap pair of slacks, and a shirt my sister ironed in order to impress and convince you to give me seven dollars per hour to stock groceries and sweep the floor.

A self-starter is someone who can figure out what needs to be done, and do it, at times without a plan. It’s someone who takes action, and asks questions later.

If you’re not willing to work long hours (at least when starting out), it’s possibly not for you.

If you don’t get excited about the journey you are about to undertake, I wouldn’t sign up for this gig.

We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained. –Marie Curie

2. It is Not As Easy As It Appears

Some of my friends would ask, “So what exactly is it that you do?” When I’d explain my day, and what’s involved, a very common remark is “your life is so easy! You’re lucky! I wish I could get paid to sit at home, run a website, and have business meetings over coffee .

Now I will admit I’m lucky in the sense that I made the decisions I made. I had mentors in my life who were instrumental in helping with those decisions, but none of this was easy.

In fact, I despise telling people what I do because it creates awkward conversations. I can no longer relate to the problems most people have with coworkers, bosses, and waking up at seven to catch the train or bus.

It appears to be gucci and gold from the outside looking in, but for those of us who’ve taken the plunge, it’s far from that.

The mind of somebody starting their own business is a pandemonium, a hurricane on occasion. Everybody has their high’s and low’s yet I envision those of a network marketer are more conspicuous.

Tim Ferriss said it best in his article “Productivity” Tricks for the Neurotic, Manic-Depressive, and Crazy (Like Me): “Most “superheroes” are nothing of the sort. They’re weird, neurotic creatures who do big things DESPITE lots of self-defeating habits and self-talk.”

But most people only see the outwardly productive and seemingly normal side of the entrepreneur.

They don’t see you dreading a project, or putting off a blog post due to fear of not doing it well enough. Being burned out or dealing with depression and avoiding people.

Talk about the tension one can make for themselves through procrastination… but this is a normal part of life for most of us.

It is a steady push/pull between extremes. One month, everything is by all accounts going incredible. You’re profiting, resting soundly, and routinely socializing. The next month, you’re not following-up with prospects, moving your to-do list back a day, and wondering if it would be easier to work at McDonalds’… in any event you don’t need to stress over setting your schedule, right?

3. It Doesn’t Make Sense To Everyone

We need people to stock the grocery shelves. We need people to work in mills that manufacture and package our food.

We need school teachers and mechanics. We need librarians and book store clerks.

It’s a simple fact that not every single person can be entrepreneurs. Not everyone wants to. The demands of starting in network marketing are much different from those of working for someone else.

Some people have a talent for management, organization, and cleaning other’s homes. Some of them only wish to do just that. So what?

Sometimes I dislike trying to explain to someone, who just wants to work at their job, why they should be an business owner.

Maybe they don’t care about working for themselves. Maybe they really do like their job (newsflash: not everyone hates their jobs). Maybe their profession allows them the money and the time freedom they need to spend with their family.

They are not us, and that’s okay.

Look on the bright side. While you may be passionate about the decisions you made, many people might not be as interested. Save your energy and spend your time making yourself and your business better.

Note: Prospecting means to look out for or to search for. 

In context of network marketing it means to find qualified individuals who are interested in your opportunity.

You should not waste your time telling your friends and family they should join up. It is however OK to present the opportunity to them and if their not interested move on.

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P.S. If you need help with creating the skill-set to become a master sponsor and prospect the correct way starting today take a look at this free training video.

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